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If you know that you are in a relationship and you are struggling then you may think that your world is over. You may also find that you struggle to see eye to eye and this can add even more pressure to you and your loved one. If you want to try and save your relationship then there are a couple of things that you can do to try and save it.

The Reasons Why You’re Together
The main thing that you need to do is go back to the beginning. You need to ask yourself, why were you drawn to that person? What made you want to be with them? What made them so incredibly amazing? You also need to evaluate the things that you have in common. This should remind you of your reasons to stay together and ask your partner the same.

Communicate
Ultimately, there is a right way and there is a wrong way for you to communicate. You should ask your partner questions that are relevant and then make the effort to listen o their response. The wrong way to approach this situation would be for you to overwhelm your partner with worries as soon as they come in from a long work day.

Make sure that you do everything you can to open up to them and offer your side of the story. Once you have listened to them, stay away from any heavy conversation as this can lead to very stressful times.

Do Something Special Together
Maybe the both of you have a favorite restaurant, go there and find out where you first fell in love. If you are in a physical space that inspired your love then this can really trigger wonderful memories of you both being together. The excitement of being somewhere like that also produces a lot of serotonin and this can help you to feel happier as well. If you know that you need to get some help and support then consider going to a counseling session.

Be Forgiving
Another thing that you need to make sure that you do is to be forgiving. You need to detach yourself and let go of all of the bitterness that made you feel the way that you do. You also need to try and be yourself and be mindful of the other person. If you spend most of your time lingering on hurtful memories then this will surely bring you down and it will also bring the other person down as well, so make sure that you give them the help and support that they need and they will do the same back to you.

Ultimately, only you can make the decision, but give your relationship time before you throw in the towel.

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If you’re going through a breakup or even a divorce then this can be one of the most stressful experiences of your life. It doesn’t matter what your reason is for breaking up with someone, or even if you wanted to or not, the idea alone is enough to devastate you and it can even turn your entire world upside down.

Why Do Breakups Hurt?
Breakups hurt because they represent loss. You aren’t just breaking up with your partner, you also have to let go of all of the dreams, excitement, and commitment that you have with one another. Romantic relationships all begin with a lot of adventure and you may find yourself longing for this in the future, but when a relationship ends then all of this disappears in an instant. On top of this, a breakup or even a divorce can launch you into uncharted territory. You have to think about whether you will end up being alone for the rest of your life and even if you will ever find someone else. This is all new to you, and the thought of it alone will be painful.

Coping with your Breakup
You need to understand that it is completely okay for you to have different feelings. You may not be as productive as you would normally be and you may not even care as much about things as you normally would. At the end of the day, you’re not a superhero and you will eventually get better and feel better. Sometimes you just need to give yourself chance to grieve, because, at the end of the day, you have lost someone important in your life.

Get the Support You Need
The main thing that you need to do is know that the loss that you are experiencing is scary and that your emotions will sometimes feel as though they are out of control. They may even feel too intense to bear at times, but there is an end to all of this. Things will change and you will meet someone else who will give you the same butterflies you had when you first met your partner. At the end of the day, it is important to realize that sometimes people change and that you may want different things from your relationship. The worst thing that you can do is force love to happen when you are no longer compatible, so if counseling doesn’t work, accept what is happening and let nature take its course.

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